Practice These 5 Tips To Be A Better Role Model?
Exam Elf takes time out from the Common Core State Standards and TEKS to consider what it takes to be a better role model.
- Be Positive
Having a positive outlook on everyday activities is important but also harder than it sounds. As parents it’s easy to get distracted with life. Work, money, health, children, our own parents, friends, traffic, the list goes on……
It’s tough and it takes a conscious effort to remain positive but it will not only help your own situation it will clearly demonstrate to your child that being positive is a choice that everyone can make.
- Walk The Walk
There’s an old adage that says ‘do as I say, not as I do’. This is confusing to children and sets the wrong example. Telling your children that they can’t have a chocolate or bag of chips because they’re unhealthy and then sitting on the couch later that night and eating them yourself sends the wrong message. Telling your children to use their manners and then not doing it yourself does nothing to reinforce your message and intent.
If you talk the talk, make sure you walk the walk.
- Identify Other Role Models
It’s easy to think that as parents we need to be setting the example all of the time. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Sit down with your child and write down a list of possible role models. They could be sportspeople, teachers, grandparents, friends, business people, and actors to name a few.
Identify 4-5 people and ask your child to do some research on them. Find out why they’re successful, what lessons they can offer, what lessons can be learned and how your child could use these lessons for themselves. Your child will not only be excited about this special project but they’ll take more notice because they’re not his or her parents!!
- Rewards & Consequences
As adults we are acutely aware of rewards and consequences. This is most evident with work. If we turn up to work on time, do our job, respect others and don’t do anything against company policy or even against the law we are rewarded with wages, bonuses, job titles and promotions. Should we turn up late, disrespect others or act fraudulently there are consequences that range from a verbal warning to imprisonment.
Initiating a rewards and consequences mentality into your household will set them up for adulthood. Reward positive attitudes, activities and behaviors and similarly implement consequences for negative, naughty and disrespectful attitudes, activities and behaviors. Individualize the rewards and consequences to your children for maximum results.
- ‘I Was Wrong’
These 3 words not only show your children that grown ups make mistakes, it clearly demonstrates that it’s ok to be wrong. In a world where being wrong is stigmatized and looked down upon it’s very important that we teach our children that being wrong is how we learn. Tell your children why you were wrong, what lesson you learned and how you will do it differently next time.
These are just 5 tips on how you can be a positive role model for your children. It’s a reminder on how we can be positive, walk the walk, identify other role models, establish rewards and consequences and admitting that we can be wrong.
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